Babies are not meant to sleep alone.
There, I said it. I don't think that anyone who puts their baby in a room all by themselves does anyone any favors. First of all, your baby doesn't understand that she was not born in a cave surrounded by hungry Tyrannosaurus Rexes. It is your job to teach her that she was born in a nice comfy, artificially heated, and triple insulated home. However, dumping said baby into a cold bed all by themselves doesn't teach them this. That would be like me handing you a Calculus book and telling you to teach yourself math. In fact, more and more research is proving this to be a really bad idea. A recent article in Psychology Today laid out the dangers of allowing your child to Cry It Out.
Even more so, humans are not meant to sleep alone.
Now, there's one our society doesn't seem to have a firm grasp on. Our biological needs drive us into the beds of other humans, regardless of our age. I sleep better knowing that my husband is next to me. He makes me feel safe and loved. Before I was married, I slept better knowing that my sister was in the bottom bunk. Surely, any scary monsters would have to eat her first, thus alerting me to their presence and keeping me safe.
There's safety in numbers. There's safety in biological reflexes. There's safety in doing what comes instinctually. This is why my family decided to create a Family Bedroom.
|Our Family Bedroom|
It's been going very well with this new set-up. After the 1st night, which was the transition night, Benjamin has spent the whole night in his space. This has freed up SO MUCH space in our bed that I'm actually feeling a little alone! Miriam is still getting used to going back into the crib after she nurses (yes, we are still night-nursing), but it's not an entirely foreign concept to her. She has always needed a little more space to sleep than Benjamin. It's feeling so great to be able to lay them down and walk away now! Because they're in their own safe sleep environments and they each know how to climb down from the bed on their own, I no longer need to remain in the bed with them to supervise sleep. That has cut down on my internet and knitting time, but my household chores are getting the attention they deserve!
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